Being a Dominant (Professional) Mistress
Being a Dominant Mistress is a state of mind. It is not a sex act, it is not a game, and it is not a role. It is a state of being.
First and foremost, I am always a Lady. There is no excuse for being impolite or rude to others. Save this for the submissive that needs and requires this of Me.
Second, I must always be in control. Drugs, even alcohol, are mind and body controlling agents. They affect relationships and most importantly can affect a scene, therefore taking away the control that I MUST have.
Third, I am always honest. To lie is to show that I cannot be trusted and a submissive must be able to trust and respect Me. I am honest with My submissive/slave about My level of experience, and I will gain more experience with him, totally enjoying the learning process. I tell a submissive up-front that I do not wish a monogamous relationship. Most submissives understand and even expect this of Me. I may not get “that” submissive but I will not lose his respect either.
Fourth, I accept responsibility for all of My actions. Everyone makes mistakes. I will do what is needed to make amends, and correct it. I will accept and admit the fact that I messed up. To seek an excuse for something going wrong or hurting someone would cause you to lose respect for Me.
Fifth, I expect respect but I do not demand it. I do not demands strangers to call Me Mistress, respect is earned over time. Demanding that a submissive/slave call Me Mistress means nothing and is only a word that when not earned is meaningless which makes Me appear to others as a petty childish fool. Those that know Me and respect Me will call Me Mistress when I have earned it, not before. When addressing other Dominants. I am not Their Mistress, I am their equal. I would never DEMAND them too ever call Me Mistress. I call them by their first name as do they.
Sixth, I know and understand the differences between needs, desires and wants. A submissive may want a 24/7 relationship with an understanding Mistress, desire a short relationship with a crude rude person, or need to session with an understanding yet cruel Mistress.
My duty as a Mistress is to control My emotions. To punish a submissive in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive.
It is My duty as a Mistress to remember that submission is a gift. To misuse this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take back what he has said by proving it to Me or voice his opinion to Me, the gift is no longer a gift.
It is My duty to watch over and protect all submissives/slaves. This does not mean to protect them from finding another Mistress and to keep him for Myself.
It is My duty to take only a submissive that will match/compliment Me. A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to Me as a 24/7/365 because I love to whip submissives.
It is My Duty to take only the amount of submissives that I can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. I would never keep a submissive hanging, giving him false hopes. I would instead free and release the submissive so he can get along with finding the right Mistress to suit his wants, needs, and desires.
It is My duty to watch and monitor any scene carefully and to ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically, mentally, or emotionally and to do after scene care including after scene conversations. At any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined for the submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.
It is My duty to ensure the submissive is emotionally stable after a scene . During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones and endorphins. Afterwards the body reduces them and may cause severe depression to the extent of being suicidal. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return in hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in the submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. I am a Mistress, and yet, I can also experience this depression after a high from the scene. Each reacts differently some stay high for weeks and when they come down, they seek the scene again to regain the high. This also can lead to problems such as longer, more intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown Dominants.
It is My duty to know and understand what the needs, desires and wants of a submissive are. Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and mentally.
It is My responsibility if I can, to insure that an un-owned submissive/slave that comes under My Dominance is guided to a Dominant Mistress/Master that is suited to that submissive’s wants, needs and desires.
It is My responsibility to insure that the submissive knows what being abusive is. To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it quits, use a safe word, or to walk/run away from an abusive Dominant.
It is My responsibility to ensure the submissive knows what its rights are. It is My responsibility to teach the submissive information about the Lifestyle. The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this information and where he can get it. An ignorant submissive can be an embarrassment to a Mistress.
It is My responsibility to insure the submissive grows and develops under My ownership, in both the lifestyle and vanilla life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means being a “doormat” when the submissive has made it clear that it is what he is looking for.
For Me to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way is dishonorable.
For Me to allow a submissive’s rights to be violated is dishonorable.
For Me to play with and discard a submissive just for My amusement is dishonorable (exception is a submissive/client that has declared this is the treatment that he needs).
Unless the submissive has declared himself to be un-owned, another Dominants interference in a relationship is dishonorable.
To chase after or scene with Another’s submissive without the other Dominants permission and full knowledge is dishonorable.
No Mistress, Master, or Dominant can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, however, others will respect Me for trying and the harder I try, the more respect that they will have for Me and My submissive/slave
a slave’s sincere gratitude
Dear Mistress Katie,
On its knees, unfit to neither sit, nor stand when addressing such a breathtakingly beautiful, sublime Lady, this lowly slave lowers its head and symbolically touches its trembling, reverent worshiping lips to M’Ladys feet and begs Mistress’ forgiveness for this uninvited intrusion of M’Lady’s precious and valuable time.
Beautiful Mistress, since accidentally coming across Your awesome web-pages several days ago, since that wonderful moment, not a day has passed that this humble slave, (who is so unworthy as to even be permitted to eat the precious dirt that the soles of Your shoes touches each day) has not taken several moments to view M’Lady’s fantastic, brilliantly designed web-site, and with each viewing, this slave has never failed to find itself totally overwhelmed and helplessly captivated, not only by M’Lady’s incredible beauty, but also by Mistress’ exceptionally superior creative ability in having designed and produced such a magnificently wonderful, fabulous vehicle through which those of us who have accepted the reality that our only reason for being born is to worship and serve, can communicate, meet, and explore common interests.
So Beautiful Lady, on it’s knees, this, humble slave begs a brief moment of M’lady’s precious and valuable time to say, “Thank You, Mistress Katie,” for being so unbelievably beautiful, and for M’Lady’s unselfish decision to share such stunning, breathtaking beauty for all to see and admire.
However Mistress, after having seen Your marvelous web-site, and after having read and savored each and every brilliantly written word, again and again, this lowly slave has become firmly convinced that not only is it M’Lady’s incredible beauty that is more than capable of overpowering and completely captivating even the strongest of men and forcing each one to its knees to beg for Your favor, but it is also Mistress’ unquestionably superior intelligence that, in tandem with Your fascinating, indescribable beauty, serves as a powerful beacon that brightly illuminates the pathways of all who kneel at Your feet, seeking M’Lady’s blessings, guidance, inspiration, and infallible wisdom in all that they do.
However Mistress, being so far away, this saddened slave can only attempt to envision what an unbelievably wonderful moment it would surely be if some gloriously beautiful day, it were also permitted into Your Majestic presence and allowed to kneel at Your feet and whisper beautiful, sincere words of worship and praise to Your incredibly stunning, incomparable beauty, superior intelligence, infallible wisdom, and irresistible, alluring Femininity, grace and charm.
But Mistress Katie, this lowly slave is uncertain if its heart would be capable of withstanding the inevitable explosion of happiness, excitement, and euphoria that such an unbelievably exhilarating moment would surely induce.
However M’Lady, this unworthy creature can not comprehend a more appropriate, fitting manner in which it could die than when kneeling at Your feet and its trembling, worshiping lips kissing the feet of the most breathtakingly beautiful, flawlessly perfect Woman on Earth.
Finally Mistress, this lowly slave again begs Mistress’ forgiveness for this interruption of M’Lady’s precious time, But the desire to contact to You and express its sincere gratitude to You for being so unbelievably beautiful has become so relentless and overpowering that it could longer resist. So Mistress, Your slave begs forgiveness and understanding if it has unknowingly over-stepped it’s slave-boundaries, or broken any protocol by writing to You without Mistress’ permission.
So Magnificent Lady, although far away, with Your permission, this lowly slave will begin each day by kneeling and whispering a prayer that every day of Your life be filled to over flowing with happiness, good health and prosperity, and that each day, You will have beautiful moments to spend with those whom You love, wonderful and precious moments that You will remember and cherish.
Your sincerely grateful slave,
robert
Comment by slave robert — October 5, 2007 @ 4:34 pm
Hello robert
Thank you for showing interest in My website, photo’s, blog, thoughts, etc. In regard to My website, Tony’s fine work speaks for itself. I too am very fortunate as Tony is not only a fellow Dominant, but a phenomenal Web Master as well.
you are correct in that you are unfit to neither sit, nor stand when addressing Me…so on your knees you will be with your head lowered. I was rather moved by how you begged for My forgiveness for this uninvited intrusion, however, since you put it so eloquently; I will permit you to visit My website daily, read My blog, and even post your thoughts..
How did you accidentally come across My website robert? I am pleased that you have enjoyed My website and have accepted the reality that the only reason for your birth was to worship and serve a Goddess such as I. It is through Me that you can indeed fulfill your destiny and explore the fantasies and BDSM interests that lurk deep inside of you in a safe, sane, consensual manner.
Being so far away is not the problem either robert, for even vanilla people from Texas take vacations in Canada. Imagine a BDSM vacation where you were indeed permitted into My realm, in My presence, permitted to kneel in front of Me, and kiss My feet. What would you do then? Would you be capable or even able to contain yourself and actually experience this real time?
Dominantly yours’
Mistress Katie
Comment by MzK — October 6, 2007 @ 4:33 am
AN ODE TO MISTRESS KATIE
by slave robert
MOST BEAUTIFUL LADY
IF YOUR SLAVE COULD FETCH ITS MISTRESS A RAINBOW
IT WOULD DO IT JUST FOR YOU
TO SHARE WITH M’LADY ITS BEAUTY
ON THE DAYS WHEN MISTRESS IS FEELING BLUE
MAGNIFICENT GODDESS
IF IT COULD. YOUR SLAVE COULD BUILD M’LADY A MOUNTAIN
ONE THAT MISTRESS COULD CALL YOUR VERY OWN
A PLACE FOR M’LADY TO FIND PEACE AND SERENITY
WHENEVER MISTRESS NEEDS TO BE ALONE
SUBLIME LADY
IF IT COULD, THIS SLAVE WOULD BAG ALL OF YOUR TROUBLES
AND THEN TOSS THEM INTO THE SEA
BUT SADLY MISTRESS, YOUR SLAVE MUST ADMIT
THAT THESE THINGS ARE IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME
BECAUSE MOST SUPREME MISTRESS
YOUR SLAVE CAN NOT BUILD YOU A MOUNTAIN
NOR FETCH M’LADY A RAINBOW FAIR
BUT PLEASE MISTRESS KATIE, ALLOW ME TO BE
YOUR DEVOTED, FAITHFUL SLAVE WHO IS ALWAYS THERE
Comment by slave robert — October 10, 2007 @ 10:37 am
Beautiful Mistress,
Your slave hopes that Your weekend was one filled with happy moments, good health, prosperity, Your slave also hopes all that Mistress had planned was accomplished to M’Lady’s satisfaction, But most of all, Your slave hopes that its beautiful Mistress was able to find some moments in Your busy day to spend with those whom you love, family and friend, wonderful, happy and precious moments that Mistress will remember and cherish.
M’Lady, Your slave realizes that it did not seek its Mistress’ permission, but it has taken the liberty of creating a “screen saver” with one of Mistress breathtakingly beautiful photographs and now, Your magnificent, incredibly beautiful Image now brightly illuminates this once dreary room with such radiance and beauty never before dreamed possible, and a Sacred place where Your slave can kneel before You each morning and pray that Your day be a happy, successful, prosperous one, free of all stress and disappointments.
Beautiful Lady, Your slave will also pray that the morning sunbeams shinning through Your windows, will always serve as a magnificently beautiful omen to remind Mistress that Your brightest, happiest, and most prosperous days of Your life are yet to come, and that You will soon be receiving all of the “good things” that life has to give.
Because Mistress Katie, Your slave feels absolutely certain that there is absolutely no other person on Earth who is more deserving of life’s “good things: than my breathtakingly beautiful, flawlessly perfect Canadian Mistress.
But Mistress, if for some reason, You are unhappy and displeased with Your slave creating the screen-saver with Your awesome, inspirational picture, Your slave will immediately remove it and beg Your forgiveness. But Mistress, if M’Lady allows Her slave to continues allowing it to serve as a beautiful, powerful beacon to brighten this entire area with Your exquisite, dazzling beauty, Your slave swears that it will always be regarded with the respect and admiration, and adoration that Mistress deserves for being a Woman and a Superior Being.
Your grateful slave,
robert
Comment by slave robert — October 10, 2007 @ 10:41 am
Hello robert
Thank you for the lovely Ode and message. Because you asked permission, you may keep the screen saver on your pc. Otherwise you would have been punished and would have had to remove it.
I did have a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend with My family and friends. your Thanksgiving weekend is coming up real soon as well. you have lots to give thanks for don’t you robert…!!!
Dominantly yours’
Mistress Katie
Comment by MzK — October 10, 2007 @ 10:46 am